{"id":611,"date":"2010-04-14T11:46:06","date_gmt":"2010-04-14T10:46:06","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/olvasonaplo.net\/olvasonaplo\/2010\/04\/14\/melanie_gideon_hazassagom_tortenete\/"},"modified":"2016-01-16T15:32:29","modified_gmt":"2016-01-16T14:32:29","slug":"melanie_gideon_hazassagom_tortenete","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/olvasonaplo.net\/olvasonaplo\/2010\/04\/14\/melanie_gideon_hazassagom_tortenete\/","title":{"rendered":"Melanie Gideon: H\u00e1zass\u00e1gom t\u00f6rt\u00e9nete"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"Hazass\u00e1gomKicsit f\u00e9lrevezet\u0151 volt a k\u00f6nyv c\u00edme \u00e9s a f\u00fclsz\u00f6veg. Meg voltam gy\u0151z\u0151dve arr\u00f3l, hogy valami momlit-et fogok olvasni. Amiv\u00e9 kifejl\u0151dtek a szingli reg\u00e9nyek, amikor a h\u0151sn\u0151k m\u00e1r gyereket v\u00e1llalnak \u00e9s megk\u00fczdenek a csal\u00e1d \u00e9s karrier t\u00e9m\u00e1val. \u00c9n szeretem az ilyen k\u00f6nyveket, teh\u00e1t tudtam, hogy mire sz\u00e1m\u00edtsak. Csakhogy ez nem reg\u00e9ny. Hanem igaz\u00e1b\u00f3l essz\u00e9gy\u0171jtem\u00e9ny, s m\u00e9g csak nem is a haz\u00e1ss\u00e1gr\u00f3l sz\u00f3l els\u0151sorban.<\/p>\n

Melanie Gideon 44 \u00e9ves, f\u00e9rj\u00e9vel \u00e9s\u00a0 9 \u00e9ves fi\u00e1val San Francisco k\u00f6rny\u00e9k\u00e9n \u00e9l, \u00fajs\u00e1g\u00edr\u00f3, gyerekk\u00f6nyveket \u00edr. “…az\u00e9rt \u00edrok gyerekeknek, mert gyerekkoromban a k\u00f6nyvek mentett\u00e9k meg az \u00e9letem. Megmutatt\u00e1k, hogy ha akarom, er\u0151s lehetek, ak\u00e1r \u00faj b\u0151rt is n\u00f6veszthetek, ha az eny\u00e9m t\u00fal v\u00e9kony, vagy nem megfelel\u0151 sz\u00edn\u0171. A k\u00f6nyvek r\u00e9v\u00e9n az lehettem, ami a val\u00f3s\u00e1gban soha: b\u00e1tor, mer\u00e9sz, \u00e9s term\u00e9szetfeletti m\u00f3don gyors. Ezt akartam visszaadni. Azoknak a gyerekeknek, akik sz\u00e1mkivetettnek \u00e9rzik magukat, akiknek a tehets\u00e9g\u00e9t m\u00e9g nem fedezt\u00e9k f\u00f6l, akiknek a k\u00e9pess\u00e9gei m\u00e9g nem nyilv\u00e1nultak meg \u2013 meg akartam mutatni nekik, hogy egyszer elj\u00f6n az \u0151 napjuk.<\/em>”<\/p>\n

Melaniet olyan dolgok foglalkoztatj\u00e1k, ami val\u00f3sz\u00edn\u0171leg mindenkit az \u0151 kor\u00e1ban \u00e9s helyzet\u00e9ben. S err\u0151l essz\u00e9kben vall. Egy \u00e9vet fog \u00e1t a k\u00f6nyv\u00e9ben, reflekt\u00e1l \u00e9s t\u00fckr\u00f6t tart el\u00e9nk. Arr\u00f3l \u00edr, hogy milyen any\u00e1nak lenni, hogy 20 \u00e9ve h\u00e1zass\u00e1gban \u00e9lni, hogy milyen neur\u00f3zisai vannak, milyen rossz d\u00f6nt\u00e9seket hoz, mennyire hi\u00fa \u00e9s hogy tud k\u00fczdeni a csal\u00e1dj\u00e1\u00e9rt. Mindezt k\u00f6nnyed\u00e9n teszi, l\u00e1tszik, hogy \u00e9rt hozz\u00e1, ugyanakkor nagyon megfogott az \u0151szintes\u00e9ge. Biztos az\u00e9rt, mert nem hangs\u00falyozza, hogy amerikai k\u00f6z\u00e9poszt\u00e1lyban \u00e9l, ett\u0151l nyugodtan el lehetett tekinteni \u00e9s ink\u00e1bb arra tudtam \u00f6sszpontos\u00edtani, hogy sorra j\u00f6ttek azok az esem\u00e9nyek, gondolatok \u00e9s konzekvenci\u00e1k, amelyek kicsit megnyugtattak, hogy nem vagyok teljesen h\u00fclye, m\u00e1s is j\u00e1r hasonl\u00f3 cip\u0151ben, mint \u00e9n. Be kell vallanom, el\u00e9gg\u00e9 tudtam azonosulni Melanie-val. \u00dagy \u00e9reztem, \u00e9n is olyan leszek p\u00e1r \u00e9v m\u00falva mint \u0151: r\u00e9g\u00f3ta ugyanazzal a f\u00e9rfivel \u00e9lek, van egy fiunk, aki\u00e9rt rajongunk \u00e9s \u00e1lland\u00f3 B csoportra vagyok k\u00e1rhoztatva, azaz mindig lesz aki jobb \u00e9s \u00fcgyesebb n\u00e1lam abban amit \u00e9ppen csin\u00e1lok.<\/p>\n

Sz\u00f3val Melanie egy \u00e9v alatt megpr\u00f3b\u00e1l megbar\u00e1tkozni azzal, hogy vettek egy furgont \u00e9s h\u0151sies k\u00eds\u00e9rletet tesz arra, hogy kempingezni menjen a csal\u00e1dj\u00e1val, hogy elvesz\u00edtik a kuty\u00e1jukat, matracot vesznek, biciklizni mennek, hogy a fia lassan feln\u0151. Ben m\u00e9g \u00e9ppen ott van azon a hat\u00e1ron ahol ugyan nyilv\u00e1noss\u00e1g el\u0151tt m\u00e1r nem viseli el anyja babusgat\u00e1s\u00e1t, de est\u00e9nk\u00e9nt m\u00e9g beb\u00fajik hozz\u00e1 besz\u00e9lgetni az \u00e1gyba. Melanie r\u00e1ad\u00e1sul esend\u0151, sokat izgul, mindenf\u00e9le katasztr\u00f3f\u00e1kra fel van k\u00e9sz\u00fclve, elm\u00e9letileg \u00e9s gyakorlatilag is, pesszimista \u00e9s a fi\u00e1t azt nagyon tudja f\u00e9lteni. Ugyanakkor im\u00e1dja a csal\u00e1dj\u00e1t \u00e9s ez a szeretet, ami \u00e1tmeleg\u00edti az eg\u00e9sz k\u00f6nyvet, ami miatt \u00fagy \u00e9reztem, hogy nem volt hi\u00e1baval\u00f3 elolvasni.<\/p>\n

\u00dagyhogy elsz\u00f3rakoztatott \u00e9s elgondolkoztatott a k\u00f6tet. Melanie Gideon j\u00f3l \u00edr, a t\u00e9m\u00e1ja pedig l\u00e1that\u00f3an univerz\u00e1lis: anyas\u00e1g, csal\u00e1d, h\u00e1zass\u00e1g, karrier, \u00e9s hogy hogyan legy\u00fcnk el\u00e9gedettek \u00e9s tal\u00e1ljuk meg abban, ami van a legjobbat.<\/p>\n

Eredeti c\u00edm: The Slippery Year
\nFord\u00edt\u00f3: Cseicsner Ot\u00edlia
\nKiad\u00f3: Athenaeum Kiad\u00f3
\nMegjelen\u00e9s: 2010 (2009)
\nTerjedelem: 237 p.
\nISBN: 9789632930374<\/em><\/p>\n

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