{"id":394,"date":"2008-04-14T21:53:44","date_gmt":"2008-04-14T20:53:44","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/olvasonaplo.net\/olvasonaplo\/2008\/04\/14\/stephanie_calman_confessions_of_a_bad_mother\/"},"modified":"2016-04-16T16:59:11","modified_gmt":"2016-04-16T15:59:11","slug":"stephanie_calman_confessions_of_a_bad_mother","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/olvasonaplo.net\/olvasonaplo\/2008\/04\/14\/stephanie_calman_confessions_of_a_bad_mother\/","title":{"rendered":"Stephanie Calman: Confessions of a bad Mother"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"M\u00e1r szemezgettem egy ideje ezzel a k\u00f6nyvvel, elv\u00e9gre kiadta az Ulpius is magyarul<\/a>, de \u00fagy gondoltam, hogy mostan\u00e1ban olvastam el\u00e9g chick lit-et (illetve ha m\u00e1r any\u00e1kr\u00f3l van sz\u00f3 momlit<\/a>-et), hogy v\u00e1rjak m\u00e9g r\u00e1 egy darabig. Azt\u00e1n k\u00f6lcs\u00f6n kaptam angolul \u00e9s meglep\u0151dve olvastam a k\u00f6nyv h\u00e1tulj\u00e1n, hogy Non-fiction. Holott eddig azt hittem a magyar bor\u00edt\u00f3 \u00e9s rekl\u00e1mok alapj\u00e1n, ez ink\u00e1bb reg\u00e9ny. \u00dagyhogy elolvastam gyorsan, rem\u00e9nykedve, hogy hasonl\u00edtani fog a Hogyan ne legy\u00fcnk t\u00f6k\u00e9letes any\u00e1k<\/a>hoz. V\u00e9g\u00fclis st\u00edlusban igen k\u00f6zel \u00e1ll hozz\u00e1, sz\u00f3rakoztat\u00f3, mert az angol n\u0151k, ha nem is sz\u00e9pek de benn\u00fck van az a humor, amit im\u00e1dok: fanyar, fapof\u00e1val el\u0151adott hal\u00e1los csattan\u00f3k. Itt azonban nincsenek tan\u00e1csok, csak egy n\u0151 \u00edrja le a tapasztalatait arr\u00f3l, hogyan v\u00e1lt sz\u00fcl\u0151v\u00e9.<\/p>\n

Ami Stephanie Calman eset\u00e9ben nem volt egyszer\u0171, \u0151 ugyanis sok\u00e1ig nem akart gyereket (s\u0151t tart\u00f3s p\u00e1rkapcsolatokt\u00f3l is \u00f3vta mag\u00e1t), azon a c\u00edmen, hogy \u00fagyis elsz\u00farn\u00e1. S term\u00e9szetesen ez a k\u00e9ts\u00e9g v\u00e9gigk\u00eds\u00e9ri az \u00e9let\u00e9t, \u00e1lland\u00f3an megk\u00e9rd\u0151jelezi mag\u00e1t, a tetteit, hogy vajon mennyire j\u00f3 anya \u0151? Hisz sok\u00e1ig pont az\u00e9rt nem foglalkoztatta a gyerek-k\u00e9rd\u00e9s, mert tudta, sose lenne olyan, mint azok a bizonyos bezzeg anyuk\u00e1k bezzeg gyerekekkel. S \u00fagy t\u0171nt sz\u00e1m\u00e1ra, hogy k\u00f6r\u00fcl\u00f6tte mindenki ilyen. S persze m\u00e9g a sz\u00fcl\u00e9st\u0151l is f\u00e9lt, ez\u00e9rt azt\u00e1n m\u00e1r az elej\u00e9n a \u201ek\u00f6nnyebb utat\u201d v\u00e1lasztotta: programozott cs\u00e1sz\u00e1rt. Azt\u00e1n kider\u00fclt, hogy nem is, hogy sokan vannak, akik bizonyos helyzetekben a kisebb ellen\u00e1ll\u00e1s fel\u00e9 hajolnak (megvesztegetik \u00e9dess\u00e9ggel a gyereket, hagyj\u00e1k \u00f3r\u00e1kat t\u00e9v\u00e9zni stb.). Eleinte csak Stephanie Calman bar\u00e1ti k\u00f6r\u00e9ben t\u0171nik ez \u00edgy, azt\u00e1n amikor elind\u00edtja a badmodhers.co.uk <\/a>oldalt, kider\u00fcl, hogy sokan vannak m\u00e9g hozz\u00e1 hasonl\u00f3ak. Olyanok, akiknek fontos a karrierj\u00fck, akik seg\u00edts\u00e9get fogadnak a gyerek mell\u00e9, b\u00f6lcs\u0151d\u00e9be, \u00f3vod\u00e1ba stb. adj\u00e1k \u0151ket, de ugyanakkor a neh\u00e9z napok ellen\u00e9re senki m\u00e1snak nem hagyn\u00e1k, hogy ennyire t\u00f6nkretegy\u00e9k az \u00e9let\u00fcket, mint csemet\u00e9ik. \u0150k egyszer\u0171en csak \u00fagy gondolj\u00e1k, m\u00e1sok mint az emberekben a h\u0151s, \u00f6nfel\u00e1ldoz\u00f3 any\u00e1kr\u00f3l \u00e9l\u0151 k\u00e9p. S a sok lelkiismeret furdal\u00e1s ellen\u00e9re r\u00e1 kell j\u00f6nnie \u00edr\u00f3nak, olvas\u00f3nak egyar\u00e1nt, hogy nem ez a l\u00e9nyeg.<\/p>\n

Mint gyakorl\u00f3 any\u00e1nak, aki szint\u00e9n hajlamos kisebb-nagyobb kr\u00edzisekben okkal vagy ok n\u00e9lk\u00fcl mag\u00e1t hib\u00e1ztatni \u00e9s ostorozni, mert nem el\u00e9g j\u00f3 sz\u00fcl\u0151, kellemes fel\u00fcd\u00fcl\u00e9st hozott a k\u00f6nyv. Ugyanakkor az ilyen st\u00edlus\u00fa k\u00f6nyvek, internetes f\u00f3rumok, blogok olvas\u00e1sa ut\u00e1n m\u00e1r kezd felvet\u0151dni bennem az a k\u00e9rd\u00e9s, hogy vajon nem a \u201ebezzeg any\u00e1k\u201d-e az urban legends. Mert akiket \u00e9n olvasok\/ismerek azok mind a hagyom\u00e1nyos anyak\u00e9pt\u0151l el\u00e9g messzire vannak.<\/p>\n

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M\u00e1r szemezgettem egy ideje ezzel a k\u00f6nyvvel, elv\u00e9gre kiadta az Ulpius is magyarul, de \u00fagy gondoltam, hogy mostan\u00e1ban olvastam el\u00e9g chick lit-et (illetve ha m\u00e1r any\u00e1kr\u00f3l van sz\u00f3 momlit-et), hogy v\u00e1rjak m\u00e9g r\u00e1 egy darabig. Azt\u00e1n k\u00f6lcs\u00f6n kaptam angolul \u00e9s meglep\u0151dve olvastam a k\u00f6nyv h\u00e1tulj\u00e1n, hogy Non-fiction. Holott eddig azt hittem a magyar bor\u00edt\u00f3 \u00e9s 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